We can bring a change. Gender Equality. Lets become strong and bring a change.
Gender inequality is a big concern and it exits not only in India but in many countries across the globe. For centuries women have not been treated equally. Its high time things change at the grass-root level. This inequality is having a great impact on men as well, which we never discuss. We are far away from gender equality, and situations in our society prove that. I never thought such things existed in today's day and age, but very recently I have met women who have gone through these situations which I will be sharing with you.
I was surprised when I heard all this, especially in a metropolitan city. I come from a small town that might not be that cool, but the minds there seemed cooler. Thanks to my parents I never knew these concepts existed. I actually thought a metropolitan will be way modern, but that is always not the case. All kinds of mindsets exists in a place.
Following are some scenarios
1. If you study too much, you will not find an ideal match.
2. A girl has to sacrifice for a happy marriage.
3. Get married because if you come off age, you will not find the right match.
4. He misbehaved with her, it must be her fault as well.
5. Why you don't want to change your name after marriage?
6. He left me because he doesn't like me traveling for work, maybe I should have compromised.
7. My husband has given me permission to work.
8. After marriage, a women's work has to take a back seat, because she has to handle the house as well. After all its a women's job.
9. My parents are not allowing me to work, they want me to get married.
10. My parents are pressurizing me to take a decision regarding marriage in one meeting.
They are many such incidents that women go through in today's times as well. Many of them are not even equipped to handle it, because from childhood they have been trained with a mindset that they are not equal to men. Many times it happens at a very subconscious level. Women who are strong-minded and live life on their own terms, find things hard to tackle because of the way people think around. We might wear modern clothes, and travel in the most fashionable cars but the outlook of many people remain closed.
Where is empowerment? Where is equality? When will mindsets change? I will begin with women taking a stand. Standing up for oneself is very important, otherwise, the gaps will never end. All you lovely ladies out there, remember, we are individuals in our own right. Ask yourself, does a man need permission to work? Do you allow him to work? Is it any kind of favor, they are doing for you. The answer is no. The same goes for situations related to marriage, studies, etc. Women are individuals in their own right and once they are mature adults they have the full right to decide what they want to do with their lives. They don't owe their life to men or their own or his family.
Gender equality should not be convenient. If we have to bring equality then we have to shoulder responsibility as well.
Roles have been created. This is for a man and this is for women. I understand that nature cannot change, but self-independence is very important, its basic. Some mothers, do not allow their boys into the kitchen, and its a daughter's or daughter in-law's job to take care of kitchen related work. Many men do not know how to feed themselves, and they take pride in it, and many women cannot handle outside chores. Here it's not about roles, it's about being self-sufficient.
A man should be able to do everything that needs him to be self-sufficient including cooking, cleaning, washing, and women should be able to do all the outside jobs, servicing her car, doing all the bank work, etc. Let's not gender define roles, let's all be independent and be able to take care of our own selves. It's good to help and it's good to accept help as well, but help should not become a dependency. It should not be the case that if the wife is not at home, a man is unable to function and if the husband is out for work, a wife is unable to do important outside work. We need to bridge the gap.
I have heard of cases where women have to take permission to visit their own parents. We as women need to understand that we are responsible and as mature adults we should be able to lead our lives the way we want to, we have the right to decide. We are not an entity which can be ruled. We are often made to feel guilty when we stand-up for ourselves, we shouldn't, now is the time when we become immune to all this, and believe in ourselves so we can bring a change.
Every human being can take advise, so can we, but an advise should be an advise and not a gun pointing at our forhead. If you are being forced to follow a decision, which others have made for you, please undersrand its your right, not to accept it, if you feel its not right for you and you don't need to feel guilty about it. Secured individuals do not force decisions or grant permissions, secure indivuduals let you decide, secure individuals will explain their view point but will not put you in a spot, where you have no choice but listen to them.
Fight for self, fight, stand up for yourself. Its not wrong, its your right. Today you might have to fight it out, but tomorrow you will bring a change. Lets not celebrate one day, lets make everyday special and bring a change.
I was surprised when I heard all this, especially in a metropolitan city. I come from a small town that might not be that cool, but the minds there seemed cooler. Thanks to my parents I never knew these concepts existed. I actually thought a metropolitan will be way modern, but that is always not the case. All kinds of mindsets exists in a place.
Following are some scenarios
1. If you study too much, you will not find an ideal match.
2. A girl has to sacrifice for a happy marriage.
3. Get married because if you come off age, you will not find the right match.
4. He misbehaved with her, it must be her fault as well.
5. Why you don't want to change your name after marriage?
6. He left me because he doesn't like me traveling for work, maybe I should have compromised.
7. My husband has given me permission to work.
8. After marriage, a women's work has to take a back seat, because she has to handle the house as well. After all its a women's job.
9. My parents are not allowing me to work, they want me to get married.
10. My parents are pressurizing me to take a decision regarding marriage in one meeting.
They are many such incidents that women go through in today's times as well. Many of them are not even equipped to handle it, because from childhood they have been trained with a mindset that they are not equal to men. Many times it happens at a very subconscious level. Women who are strong-minded and live life on their own terms, find things hard to tackle because of the way people think around. We might wear modern clothes, and travel in the most fashionable cars but the outlook of many people remain closed.
Where is empowerment? Where is equality? When will mindsets change? I will begin with women taking a stand. Standing up for oneself is very important, otherwise, the gaps will never end. All you lovely ladies out there, remember, we are individuals in our own right. Ask yourself, does a man need permission to work? Do you allow him to work? Is it any kind of favor, they are doing for you. The answer is no. The same goes for situations related to marriage, studies, etc. Women are individuals in their own right and once they are mature adults they have the full right to decide what they want to do with their lives. They don't owe their life to men or their own or his family.
Gender equality should not be convenient. If we have to bring equality then we have to shoulder responsibility as well.
Roles have been created. This is for a man and this is for women. I understand that nature cannot change, but self-independence is very important, its basic. Some mothers, do not allow their boys into the kitchen, and its a daughter's or daughter in-law's job to take care of kitchen related work. Many men do not know how to feed themselves, and they take pride in it, and many women cannot handle outside chores. Here it's not about roles, it's about being self-sufficient.
A man should be able to do everything that needs him to be self-sufficient including cooking, cleaning, washing, and women should be able to do all the outside jobs, servicing her car, doing all the bank work, etc. Let's not gender define roles, let's all be independent and be able to take care of our own selves. It's good to help and it's good to accept help as well, but help should not become a dependency. It should not be the case that if the wife is not at home, a man is unable to function and if the husband is out for work, a wife is unable to do important outside work. We need to bridge the gap.
I have heard of cases where women have to take permission to visit their own parents. We as women need to understand that we are responsible and as mature adults we should be able to lead our lives the way we want to, we have the right to decide. We are not an entity which can be ruled. We are often made to feel guilty when we stand-up for ourselves, we shouldn't, now is the time when we become immune to all this, and believe in ourselves so we can bring a change.
Every human being can take advise, so can we, but an advise should be an advise and not a gun pointing at our forhead. If you are being forced to follow a decision, which others have made for you, please undersrand its your right, not to accept it, if you feel its not right for you and you don't need to feel guilty about it. Secured individuals do not force decisions or grant permissions, secure indivuduals let you decide, secure individuals will explain their view point but will not put you in a spot, where you have no choice but listen to them.
Fight for self, fight, stand up for yourself. Its not wrong, its your right. Today you might have to fight it out, but tomorrow you will bring a change. Lets not celebrate one day, lets make everyday special and bring a change.
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